Category: Goals

How Tracking Food Helps With Weight Loss Success

A very big piece of advice I would like to pass along to you is to track your food and exercise, in some shape or form. It has a lot of benefits, more than I could ever list. So here are the highlights.

These are just a few methods of tracking:

  • Online or through an app: Spark People and MyFitnessPal are just a couple that I’ve had personal experience with and have found work well. There are likely countless others.
  • Computer: some programs such as Microsoft Works and Microsoft Word have food and exercise logs. You could also create your own custom food/exercise logs with simple tables or other buttons within some of these programs.
  • Paper and pen: go old school and use a notebook to write down what you have eaten and done for exercise or print logs from programs and use them to write them down.

Now you may want to know what is so important about tracking food and exercise when you are trying to improve your health and lose weight. I’ll tell you why I believe it to be so important:

  1. To see where you stand throughout the day as well as at the end of it, such as eating within your calorie range, getting enough fruits and vegetables, getting enough protein or fiber, not getting too many carbs or too much fat.
  2. To measure physical capabilities and see how much more you can do compared to when you started or even a couple weeks ago. Some ways to see progress would be with time (minutes), distance, speed, repetitions of strength training exercise, increasing the weights for strength training, etc.
  3. To see what works for you as well as what does not. That way you can repeat what does work and cut out what doesn’t. You will be able to look back and see trends to help you decide your course of action going forward. If you weren’t keeping track, how would you know?

As you track your food and exercise in one form or another, you will also find that it gives you accountability to yourself. It provides you with the chance to see what you’re doing each day in relation to your goals and progress. Keeping track of what you eat and what exercises you do, as well as possibly even how you felt about it if you want, will help you to continuously move forward.

Then as you go along, you will know how to change things as needed and find what works for you. A lot of this weight loss thing is finding what works for you personally. Sure, you can get a million and one ideas from the internet, but some things will work for you and others won’t. Some of it won’t interest you and some simply doesn’t work for you or your body, and this is one way to keep track of that as well.

~Bonnie~

Tinker Bell Half Marathon: 2016 to 2017

Last year in May, I did the Tinker Bell Half Marathon at Disneyland for the first time! It was something I had seen on a show, I think it was Extreme Makeover Weight Loss Edition, and thought… “Wow, that would be fun to do!” I love Tinker Bell, she’s my favorite Disney character, so that was one of the reasons I was so drawn to the race, but also the fact that I had recently started my own healthy living journey and was very interested in doing races.

Triumphant right after finishing the half marathon in 2016!

I didn’t think that I would be interested in running a half marathon at that time though. Then one of my friends on SparkPeople ran the Tinker Bell Half in 2015 and I was so motivated and inspired by her story, that I decided that I could totally do the race too. I had a lot of help from friends encouraging me and helping me make this happen, and I am so thankful for all they did for me because the half marathon there at Disneyland was one of the very best experiences in my life so far.

So, in May 2016 I did the Tinker Bell Half Marathon for the first time and it was a big struggle. I had trained but not as well as I would have liked. Still, the training I did do allowed me to finish. If you don’t know about runDisney races, they will pull you out if you are too slow and fall too far behind. They require you to keep up a pace of 16 minutes per mile. I had a hard time with this the first half of the race, kept up with the pacers for a little bit, and then slowly started falling behind. I didn’t get pulled out though and was able to finish the race in 3 hours 43 minutes. I was so ecstatic and triumphant for being able to finish the race! It was an amazing feeling. I even didn’t have as much soreness or pain following the race and recovery went really smooth for me!

A picture from my longest training session before the race- 10 miles!

I finished the race feeling ready to tackle another half marathon in November, in my hometown here in California, but due to our moving across the country so close to the race, I wasn’t able to train at all for it. Over the summer though, when they opened registration for the Tinker Bell Half Marathon for 2017, I signed up right away! I was so excited to be able to do the half marathon again!

With the half marathon in May, I needed to start training right around the New Year, but I didn’t. Then only a few weeks into the New Year, I got a puppy… totally unplanned, literally showed up at my door. She was pretty calm and allowed me to work and my parents could handle her when I needed them to take care of her. Just four days after she entered our lives, she was taken away by her previous owners who had said we could keep her and then changed their mind, telling our apartment managers that we wouldn’t give her back. A few hours after that whole debacle, they sent Jasper, my puppy to us as an apology.

Look how tiny Jasper was! My heart is melting!

Jasper was younger and they weren’t attached to him, plus I had some insurance against them making a claim against us like they had before. He was meant to be mine, but he is high energy and high maintenance, and I didn’t want to leave this little ball of energy in his cage too often to go training. I already had to put him in there a bit while I worked on writing and later health coaching. I thought things would improve, he would calm down a bit. He did, but not enough and by then I was hustling to make enough income to support him and both of us. Therefore my training kept being pushed back and eventually there was just no time to train. Not only that, but we experienced some car troubles and other financial hardships that left me without a way to pay for the traveling and hotel I would need.

Wearing my “I DID IT!” shirt after the 2016 race.

I was super disappointed that I wasn’t able to go do the Tinker Bell Half Marathon this year. It was heartbreaking to me, seeing the emails from runDisney hitting my inbox, knowing I wasn’t going to be able to go in the final month before the race. Then they sent me a “thank you for participating” and “congratulations on your amazing accomplishment” email a couple days after the race. In my head I was thinking, “Oh how I wish I had done this amazing accomplishment again this year.” It made my heart sink. However, something that took the sting out of it was Jasper having his neuter surgery two days before the race, on May 12th. Taking care of him and all that entailed really kept my mind off of the fact that I was missing this race I had been looking forward to ever since I had done the first one.

There is next year though, and this time I will be training properly and finishing the Tinker Bell Half Marathon for the second time. The first time was such an amazing experience and a huge accomplishment for me, there is no way I’m going to miss the 2018 race!

 

 

~Bonnie~

How to Survive a Big Slip-Up

The truth of the matter is that slip-ups happen from time to time, for all of us. None of us is perfect and we all make mistakes. Unfortunately, sometimes we also go through periods of time where all it feels like we do is slip-up! Those are really the pits! I had one of those myself recently and I had to constantly fight the “I’m a failure” feeling that kept creeping in simply because I was struggling so bad and nothing I did was working.

There is some great news… It is completely normal for this to happen in your weight loss or healthy living journey and I guarantee that you will get through this as long as you don’t give up! So no matter what you do, keep trying to forge ahead with your healthy living goals. As long as you keep trying, you will find something that works for you. It just takes time! It may even take longer than you imagined but it will indeed happen.

Use your bad experience to fuel you as you move forward, instead of seeing it as a totally negative deal. Learn from it and keep moving forward. There’s no use beating yourself up about the past. As I like to tell myself: “It is what it is and all I can do is move forward.” You can’t change what already happened, but what you can do instead is keep trying to do better.

Here are some of the things that have helped me get out of my big slip-up:

  • Look at the big picture. When things are tough and it feels like everything is fruitless, look at the big picture of your goals. It can be a beautiful tool because it reminds you of the big reason as to WHY you’re trying to lose weight and get healthy.
  • Focus on what you CAN do. Focus on each healthy decision you can make to help dig you out of the hole that it seems you fell into. What can you do right now, right here, to better your mentality?
  • See what you can do TODAY to move forward. There is only so much you can do each day. Think about what you can do today to work towards your goals. That way it seems like so much more of a manageable chunk.
  • Take it all one day, one moment at a time. No one can achieve their goals in no time flat. You think about each day, or each moment at a time, whatever works for you to make it easier and more doable.
  • Keep putting one foot in front of the other, no matter how difficult it seems. Don’t overwhelm yourself by thinking of all the things you need to do in order to achieve your goal. Just put one foot in front of the other no matter what and keep yourself moving forward.
  • Get yourself pumped up about something! Nothing can spark your motivation to do well like getting yourself excited to do it or something else you really enjoy. Feeling happier and more at peace will certainly help you get back on the right track with your weight loss and healthy living goals!

Even when it seems fruitless, remember that you are simply AMAZING for your efforts. Always keep trying! Even when it feels like you’re not making any progress whatsoever, keep going!

Try something new if you need to or try things that worked for you in the past. Trust your process because it is yours alone. Remember you haven’t failed until you quit trying.

Repeat this mantra when all else fails, “I CAN AND I WILL!” You will get through this.

~Bonnie~

The Secret of Success: Celebrate Your Victories

If you are trying to lose weight, you may think “Well, I’ll reward myself when I lose X pounds.” Yeah, do that! However, you should also celebrate the non-weight related goals… and maybe put even more emphasis on these!

Did you eat 5 fruits and vegetables today? Celebrate that! It’s a huge accomplishment and takes amazing willpower. I for one don’t accomplish that as often as I would like to so I admire anyone who does it even for one day!

Did you make it through a hard workout without quitting? Workouts are hard, period. An intense one is even tougher to make it through because there may be multiple moments where you would absolutely love to quit! If you pushed through a hard workout without quitting, give yourself a big pat on the back!

Have you eaten within your calorie range for the first time, or have you eaten within your calorie range for a certain amount of days in a row? This is another feat! Go crazy, do a little dance for your accomplishment!

Are you starting a new exercise routine? Starting a new exercise routine is sometimes a hard thing to get motivated for, it’s new and it’s scary. Reward yourself for motivating yourself to start a new one and change things up!

Have you tried a new healthy food recently? Another new and scary experience is trying a new healthy food. What if you don’t like it? You’re spending money on something you don’t even know if you like. But how will you know if you don’t take a risk? Whether you end up liking this new food or not, give yourself a figurative high-five for putting your taste buds out there!

Did you push through and do your workout even if you weren’t “feeling it?” Good for you. Celebrate! Your a rockstar for pushing through and just doing it!

Did you push harder during a workout you’ve been doing for a while and just cruising along with? Another good reason to celebrate because that is not easy, to raise yourself up a level and give your workout your all!

One day you notice you feel stronger and healthier… Woohoo! Yeah, that is a great result! Celebrate it and tell the world or have a mini party! Those are the kinds of results you are working so hard to achieve.

Really, the list of non-weight related accomplishments are endless. You decide what you feel is a victory in your journey. It’s you who is living it and you who you need to keep motivated!

Your next question might be… How should I celebrate?

Here are a few ways that I have used or seen others use:

  • Let loose and just dance! Turn Some upbeat music on and dance your heart away.
  • Get your hair or nails done, pamper yourself!
  • Window shop for a bigger goal reward.
  • Spend some extra time alone or putting yourself first, and don’t let yourself feel guilty about it.
  • Buy something you have been eyeing for a while.
  • Watch your favorite TV show and just relax.
  • Go check a book out from the library that you’ve been meaning to read, and make time to read it. You deserve it!
  • Call a friend you haven’t talked to in a while. This is so good for the soul!
  • Go for a drive with some new scenery if possible.
  • Dress up and go out, even if it’s not somewhere fancy.

Again, the list for rewards and ways to celebrate is endless. What do you like to do that you rarely make time for? Make time for it now to reward yourself or simply celebrate a job well done. You deserve to pamper yourself in some way, big or small, for your hard work.

What are some of your recent non-weight related accomplishments? And what do you like to do to celebrate those accomplishments?

How to Set Goals and Actually Accomplish Them

Goal setting can be one of the best tools at your disposal, but also one of the hardest to accomplish:

Where do you start? How do you know you’re making goals that are right for you? How can you follow through and keep moving forward when the going gets tough?

My first tip: Think about what is realistic for you!

What someone else is doing won’t necessarily work for you. Your goal has to be something you want and something you can realistically do if you push yourself just past your comfort zone. So first, think about what you CAN do and what you can accomplish and then raise the bar just ever so slightly.

My second tip: Make a plan and stick to it as best you can.

Will you be perfect? No. However, setting a plan that will enable you to reach your goal is essential. If you stray or lose motivation, you can use the plan as a reference point to get back on track. Realize that you are just doing your best and you won’t be completely on your game all the time. It also helps in making things seem doable instead of overwhelming. So break down what you need to do in smaller timeframes, such as by weeks or days.

My third tip: Focus on WHY you want to accomplish this goal.

Never lose sight of the reason why you want to pursue this goal, why you are trying so hard to achieve it. If you remind yourself each day of the why, you will find it a lot easier to feel motivated when things get hard.

My fourth tip: Believe in your ability to reach (or even surpass) your goal.

You sow what you reap, as the saying goes. So a simple belief in yourself to make this happen will actually help you make it happen! Sounds pretty straightforward, doesn’t it? Whenever you feel doubt sinking in, say to yourself, “I am strong, I am capable, and I CAN do this!” Trust me, it really does help!

My fifth and final tip: Don’t give up.

While you may need to adjust your goals here and there if you begin to realize they are unrealistic for you right now, you must not give up. Adjust the goal and proceed. Change it entirely if you must, but keep moving forward no matter what! Always having a goal to move forward will help give you structure.

 

This obviously isn’t the whole picture but will definitely help you get off to a good start with your goals. These are some of the ones I have found to be the most important in setting goals myself.

~Bonnie~

Sweet Tooth Sweet Attack Cravings Busters

Anyone who has any touch of a sweet tooth understands that from time to time, we all crave something sweet! How to handle such a situation when you’re working on your health and trying to lose weight? Calories are precious commodities in our plans, as is the fat and carbs we try to limit to some degree in order to meet our goals!

So here are some of the things I’ve used for under 200 calories:

  • Apple sliced up with cinnamon on it.
  • Apple sliced up with a tablespoon of peanut butter to dip.
  • Banana with peanut butter to dip (obviously the banana’s slippery lol, so you might need a spoon or fork!)
  • Peaches, nectarines, plums, grapes, strawberries, basically any fruit that has a satisfying sweet taste is great!
  • Fruit with low calorie whip cream on top!
  • Canned fruit mixed with applesauce, yum! Low calorie too with lite syrup or water based canned fruit and unsweetened applesauce, around 100-120 calories. Even diced fresh strawberries in applesauce is delicious!
  • Unsweetened applesauce with a little bit of cinnamon mixed in.
  • Yogurt (regular/Greek) either with fruit or other dessert flavor or with fresh fruit added in.
  • Greek yogurt with peanut butter and/or bananas mixed in.
  • Low calorie pudding with fresh fruit mixed in, I prefer vanilla with diced banana.
  • Fiber One brownies occasionally since they are only 90 calories and really hit the spot for me.
  • Skinny Cow ice creams, which come in a variety of flavors and kinds with low calories.
  • Ice cream cone from McDonald’s is only 170 calories, less if you get the kiddie cone! This is great for those rare treats or when you go out with your kids and want a small treat to enjoy with them.
  • And my recent cravings buster of chocolate Shakeology, which is 160 calories and packed full of nutrients such as protein and fiber.

Most of these packaged foods are only occasional as I don’t keep many of them in the house on a regular basis, but they are good on the occasion that we do have them. I especially like the Fiber One brownies because I can keep them in my own space (away from grabby hands) and eat one as needed or throw them in my purse for when I’m on the go. I have by no means cut out processed foods entirely, and still turn to them pretty often, but it is something I am working on as I continue my journey. It is a process and sometimes I do better than others!

Some of these could even serve as dessert with your dinner, or as an evening snack as most are really low calorie and/or healthy on some level.

So when you’re having a sweet attack, try something from this list and see if it works for you!

What are your go-to sweet treats that are low calorie and/or healthy? Do you have anything to add to this list? I know I didn’t list everything, because there are still so many options, so feel free to share with us! Passing along what you use to healthily bust those sweets cravings can really help others in their own journeys!

 

~Bonnie~

How to Establish a Lifestyle Change

You’ve heard it before, likely too many times to count, that in order for your weight loss to stick you need to establish a lifestyle change. I’m here to tell you that this is absolutely true. Weight loss will not magically make it to where you can eat whatever you want or chuck exercising once you reach your goal weight. You will need to continue with these new habits you’ve created for yourself for the rest of your life. That’s not to say that you will have to exercise at the rate and intensity or restrict your calories as much as you have been to lose weight, but you will still need to keep your habits going.

“Lifestyle change” sounds so cliché to most of us by now. We see and hear it everywhere as we immerse ourselves in our weight loss efforts. I know it sounds cliché to me even though I wholeheartedly believe in it and even though my lifestyle change has become just a way of life for me. This phrase sums up all of our focus on building a healthy life for ourselves. That is our goal, to be healthy individuals and to live a fuller and higher-quality life.

 

Now you may want to know that if this is so vital to being successful, how to achieve it, so here are some tips:

  • Start small and remember each step in the right direction is progress. Make small changes and simply focus on making one good choice at a time. This way it is much more manageable.
  • Remember that slow and steady wins the race. It might sound enticing to go full force from the very beginning and keep going at that pace, but you will hit a burn out wall. So take things slow and focus on your progress. Sometimes you may feel like you’re not making any progress at all and that’s okay, as long as you keep moving forward and keep trying you will see progress soon enough.
  • Make sustainable changes- start eating and exercise habits that you can stick with long-term. Find exercise you enjoy doing and healthy foods you enjoy eating. You can change things up and try new things but don’t exercise too much or restrict your calories too much too fast.
  • Arm yourself with information. Research healthy habits, recipes that sound good, and find things that work for you. There are so many possibilities out there!
  • Keep yourself motivated- surround yourself with people who have similar goals, read blogs or articles about people who have lost weight or are losing weight currently, join weight loss websites/apps where there is no shortage of support (such as Spark People where I found just this), and keep searching for things that interest you in your new lifestyle.

That’s the simplified version. Obviously there is more to it, but some of it we all have to figure out for ourselves because we are all different. We need to find what works for us in particular. So please, don’t be discouraged if what works for someone else or what you feel should work for you doesn’t, because there is so much more out there than just that! Make your lifestyle change work for you and it will be so much easier to stick with because you will learn to enjoy it.

What have you been doing to establish your lifestyle change?

 

~Bonnie~

What I Love About Beachbody

A little over a month ago, I signed up to be a Beachbody coach, and it was one of the best decisions I’ve ever made. It wasn’t one I took lightly and it had to come at just the right time. You see, I had been approached by a Beachbody coach over a year ago, who wanted me to be a part of her team. However, I did not feel connected to her or what she was offering at the time. It was tempting, I wanted to be able to make an income working from home and doing something as awesome as inspiring others to live a healthy life, but it didn’t feel like the right decision for me.

I still believe that, firmly. She was not the coach I needed to sign up with and it was not the right time for me! Plus I wanted to go it on my own and do things my way, and I was just beginning to learn about blogging and making it work for me. That had been a dream of mine for a long time because I’ve always loved to write. Towards the end of last year, I refocused my blog (and here you are!) and was still working on making health coaching work on my own.

Well, what do you know…? I started connecting with a few Beachbody coaches in various capacities. One of them in particular I felt like we were on similar pages and I knew I could trust her, because I already felt comfortable talking to her and resonated with some of her story. I still didn’t want to be a Beachbody coach when I first met her, but I was fascinated by how much she helped other people and the quality she provided. Like I said, I started making friends with other Beachbody coaches and saw how much they were benefiting from their Shakeology and the awesome workouts they were doing, and I just kept feeling pulled into this new world. Being an independent health coach, all on my own, was not going very well.

Honestly, I was struggling with my own healthy living journey because of a bunch of changes in my life since the summer and a lot of upheaval that left my world very unstable. Now that my world had gotten more stable, I was still struggling for various reasons. Healthy living has been an important part of my life for almost three years now, as I will be celebrating my three year anniversary in May, and I had not given up on it, but was having a lot of trouble getting back on track. Before all these changes in my life, I was so strong and motivated in my journey. Then all those changes occurred, and I let things go because it was just too overwhelming to juggle it all at once. These experiences and my struggle is what finally led me to make this wonderful choice to become a Beachbody coach.

Becoming a Beachbody coach was a decision that was made for a number of reasons.

  1. It provided me with the ability to help others with their healthy living goals. As I mentioned above, inspiring others to live a healthy life is something that I find truly amazing and it is one of my biggest passions.
  2. There is this huge supply of workout resources and nutritional supplements that provide a much needed boost! Take for example, the Shakeology shakes are really helping me. As I deal with autoimmune disease, joint problems, and other chronic issues that make me tired and fatigued throughout the day, drinking Shakeology is really making a difference. It is helping me get through my days with less napping and more overall energy!
  3. To help me with my own journey, and get me back on track. It has still been slow progress in the past month with getting my eating back on track especially and learning how to be consistent with my workouts again, but I am finally making the progress that I need… and I know that the container system that came with the 21-day fix package is something that I can use long-term, and is more practical for me than counting calories, which is what I used to do. Now it is about portions, getting in healthier foods instead of just focusing on how many calories the food has, and eating more whole foods.
  4. Being able to continue working from home, doing what I love while helping other people. I already was working from home as a freelance writer, but healthy living is such a huge part of my life and has been for a few years, that it really needed to be a part of my career as well.

Do you feel you have something to offer other people striving to live a healthy life?

 

~Bonnie~

How to Strive for Everyday Self-Awareness

I am pleased to announce that Prince Akwarandu from Ewritepreneur is sharing his expertise on personal development, specifically how to strive for everyday self-awareness.

Can you imagine a photographer shooting pictures without taking the time to focus? What deer hunter would stand on top of a hill and shoot randomly at the valley without taking aim at something? Our personal lifestyle resonates in same direction. If we don’t exercise the urge to succeed and move far from poverty we may not be successful.

While I was writing my first ever published book I had an encounter with ‘laziness syndrome’ which I almost fell off the chain for. At a point I stopped meeting up my writing goals and breaking the nuts I had set out myself to allow me write well and fast. The burden got heavy on me and then I recognized I will pose to my readers as an irresponsible writer if I refuse to deliver and at the right time.

Why I tell the story above? I will like to push you toward the real reason why you should be aware anytime, any day not minding the circumstance involved to stand for yourself and your dear future. Your future should be very dear to you because whatever you can’t deal with now will come after your future and it will defeat your ignorance and refusal to act when due. By then you will be doomed of failure running up, down, right and left with no definite solute. If you take the right steps, the urge to be self-aware will live presently in your moment of existence.

Allow me hold you by the hand and let you into the world of self-awareness.

In the world of self-awareness we have no room for excuse. So, get ready for none.

Do You Need To Develop Self Awareness?

How well do you know yourself? How deep is your understanding about your emotions?

It is no lie that as you develop self-awareness you may be able to make certain changes in your mind. It comes naturally to us as humans so I won’t blame you for any mess. One thing is sure here – If you can be able to change the interpretations of different issues to a positive one in your mindset you can influence your emotion. Answering to this great call will help you to get what you want and need to step up your game. Success is more than the money you invest in different businesses expecting double or triple returns as profits.

Here is the reason: If your emotions cannot capture money your hands won’t touch it.

Below I share with us the four basic factors responsible for our everyday drive toward being self-aware.

1. Breaking Limitation Pattern

No matter the challenges you are facing now, self-awareness remains the first step in creating a ‘debut single’ of your life. Limiting patterns has been the organic factor denying young people of their beautiful destinies. The word Limitation is a critical word which from study I could say was conjured up from the two great perspectives rising from ‘limit’ down to ‘action’. Self-awareness can be an expression of one’s feeling concerning a particular matter in a particular way to achieve an aim or series of it. For your self-awareness to last and allow you achieve your purpose in life, you must be cognizance of self-limiting patterns. This kind of pattern is one which stands to deter your day-to- day decisions about the events that take place in your life. Don’t allow it instead stay steady and strong.

2. Shopping Lives’ Happiness

Self-awareness is a guide to everyone’s happiness in life. This allows you be in control of how the mind affects your happiness. The gifting of self-awareness can’t be over emphasized because of its ability to allow you perceive other people, to know people’s thoughts about you – your attitudes and how they perceive you. This carefully explains how we may respond to people’s actions as we break the limiting patterns that try to confide us. If you forfeit the moment of your emotions and behavior you may have a big problem in positioning yourself for maximum success. With the practice to shop lives’ happiness we can learn to engage and see new opportunities to expand our capacities.

3. Practicing Focus While Living

When we talk about focus, it isn’t learnt only when you read a book and feel like a super hero. No, it is far from that. When you read a book, you focus mostly on the ideas embedded in that very book. The development of self-awareness is gotten through practices in directing your actions and beliefs to how it affects your personal lifestyle. Think of learning as a situation where you are to train your voice as a singer. When learning to sing you pay attention to tones and pitches to know when you should stretch your voice a little bit higher and lower as the case may be. You think of how to move your tongues and lips to meet the right bit in the right time frame. Singing isn’t leaned from books and self-awareness isn’t either. A singer needs awareness on their tongue movements and good body relaxation to meet up the needed standard.

4. Rule Over Your Emotions

Emotion takes a larger share to what contributes to our awareness. Without including the word ‘emotion’ explaining self-awareness will remain incomplete. Emotions are the very first vital ingredient that triggers and builds up our thoughts. Our reaction toward a particular action is displayed depending on the level of emotions we exist in at that particular time. If you can control the tea spoon and give it option of when to enter your mouth or no, you can rule over your emotions. This is to say, making changes in your life is much easier to do when you catch them early. If you’ve persevered to read up till here, probably you have understood the power of self-image and how we can make good decisions.

Wrapping it up

The key to greater confidence and assertiveness in your life is self-awareness. You can stop reacting to events and emotions and learn to choose your response to any situation. You can stop reacting to events and emotions and learn to choose your response to any situation. For this reason, spend some time recognizing areas you need to develop and intentionally making an effort to develop or strengthen that aspect of yourself.

Author Bio: Prince Akwarandu is a Content Creator and Brand Story Teller at Ewritepreneur. He help purpose driven writers grow their writing talent without compromising their price, purpose and promise. He believes in personal development, Nation Building, regional collaboration and global participation.

You can connect to him on: Twitter | LinkedIn | Google+

 

How to Create a Life You Enjoy Living

This is my life… my story… my book. I will no longer let anyone else write it; nor will I apologize for the edits I make.

-Steve Maraboli

What is life if not worth living?

The truth is, you really can change your life to one that you enjoy living… at least most of the time. No one’s life is perfect but we all have the power to make our lives better.

A lot of this power of change might very well include shifting your mental energy to better things and/or things you can actually change. So fair warning: this isn’t some magical or easy answer to live your dream life. After all, if it were, I would have been doing so in my own life for a while now.

Owning our story and loving ourselves through that process is the bravest thing that we’ll ever do.

-Brene Brown

The good news is that you can OWN your life and shape it to be something you actually enjoy living. Here I will share with you some things that I have personally learned in my pursuit to a better life for myself:

First of all, remember that you are worth this and you deserve a life you can enjoy living.

You are worth living a life you find satisfying and rewarding. It will take quite a bit of work, and a lot of mentality changes, but it is so very possible.

Realize that your idea of a life that’s satisfying and rewarding may be quite different than others’ idea of that life.

This is your life. It isn’t up to them how you live it. Don’t let others’ opinions poison your mind and make you doubt your abilities. You are powerful and a force to be reckoned with. You have so many more options open to you than you can even see right now. Open your mind to them. If other people don’t like it, then they can just deal with it or move on.

Think about what you really want out of life, either long-term or short-term, or even both.

What do you want your life to look like? What do you want your future to hold? Consider what your biggest dreams are right now. Don’t limit yourself to what you feel is possible for you right now. Like I mentioned above, there are so many more options available to you than you can see right now and you never know what you can accomplish until you set out to do it!

Weigh the pros and cons to your decisions. Can you really imagine living your life if you follow through with that decision?

Considering the good and the bad that could result from each decision you make. Is that decision really worth making when you consider the negatives that may come from it? Sometimes the positives actually outweigh the negatives or the sacrifice is worth what you get in return. Thinking in these terms for bigger decisions, and sometimes even smaller ones, can really make a difference. At the very least, it makes you think twice before taking a plunge.

Make goals that are actually reachable and allow you time to pursue them, and then craft a plan to meet the goal(s).

I wasn’t lying when I mentioned that you shouldn’t only consider possible for yourself. However, in order to pursue your goals, they still need to be realistic for you and your circumstances. You can make plans to make some goals fit into your life, while others may be a dream to hold off for another time. Think of the resources you have at your disposal right now or that you could possibly use. Wherever there’s a will, there’s a way!

Take action because none of this means much if you don’t actually take any action to achieve it.

Make plans and prepare, but also take action. All the preparation in the world will mean nothing if you don’t move forward with those plans. You may have to start before you’re ready and that’s okay. Some of it will have to be figured out as you go along because you can’t possibly see the whole path all at once.

Scale back on the negatives… Cut anything out of your life that sucks energy away from you or makes you miserable.

There is no space in your life for the negatives. Those people, tasks, or things in your life that suck energy away from you and leave you depleted… whatever you can let go of, do it! It’s not worth holding onto those things if they are keeping you from the life you want (and sometimes need) to live. Some of these things will be okay without you and some of them may not. However, your wellbeing is more important than most of them if you truly consider it. I’m not saying chuck important things from your life, by any means, but dispose of anything that you can that causes you misery.

Grow the positives- focus on any and all positives.

Along the same lines as the point above, focus on any and all positives and elaborate on them. Make those positives the center of your life and your life will begin to take shape around them as if they are the most important thing. It takes time but it certainly helps!

I wish to live a life that causes my soul to dance inside my body.

-Dele Olanubi

So I ask you, what do you really want from your life? Do you think it’s possible?

~Bonnie~