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Healthy Living Becomes a Struggle When Your World is Unstable

When your world is unstable, compared to your normal, it can be hard to focus, to remember what is important, and to simply take care of yourself. I know because I experienced this myself on many occasions, but most recently in my journey when it started again in May of last year. That’s when my whole life got tilted on its axis.

Our big cross-country move was in the works for a few months before then, but that is when the true craziness began. We had to find a place to live in another state, pack up all our belongings, clear out my grandparents’ house, ups and downs with my brother and little nephews getting another place to live, clearing out our own house which was a huge to do with lots of issues, and so much more last summer. Let’s just say, having all of this on my plate led to me putting my health on the back burner.

After that huge ordeal that lasted a few month with nonstop work, worry, and figuring things out, I struggled really badly to get back on track. Each time I did work on it, I would do okay for a while and then slip back down into the blackhole of eating what I wanted and not getting enough exercise. I had thought that healthy living was such a part of me before this, but I was proven wrong in one of the worst ways. As some of you may know, I ended up gaining back half of the weight I had lost in the previous two years of my journey, in this past year.

However, I have never given up. I knew I would get back on track at some point and I was not going to stop trying! I am so thankful to have had the opportunity and to also have made the decision to work with Beachbody a couple months ago. I’m finally working on my health in a more consistent way and while it is not some magic pill to help me lose weight, it is helping me rebuild those habits that I let go… and that is the biggest part of this! Truth be told, I haven’t lost any weight yet because I’ve been working on building the habits again instead of actual weight loss, but it will follow. It is all thanks to the great workouts, the support system, the nutritious shakes, and the Portion Fix container system. They all add up and are helping me learn how to do things in a way that works for me again.

When your world is unstable…

It makes it hard to focus

You have to figure out what your priorities are and you may not always pick the most important ones. When you have too much going on, your health is usually one of the first things to fall by the wayside, at least it was for me. Your focus is split between so many things and it becomes overwhelming to keep a hold on everything that you need to hold onto.

It makes things feel as if they are too much work

For me, even though healthy living was such a part of my life that it really shouldn’t have been so hard to keep it up even in the craziness, it just wasn’t. Everything felt like too much work because we had so much to accomplish in such a short period of time and things seemed like they kept being added to our plate.

It makes you feel guilty for not being “perfect,” even in moments of weakness

As humans, we often have this ideal that we need to be everything to everyone, in essence… to be perfect! And this feeling doesn’t just go away because we’re busy or our world is unstable, it may even intensify. I felt like I had to get absolutely everything done and stay on top of it all, but it was impossible, which made me feel guilty! That guilt does not help us get anything done.

Have you ever experienced a time in your life where you struggled to keep up with your healthy lifestyle due to your world being so unstable? If so, what did you do about it?

 

~Bonnie~

Dealing with Depression and Anxiety at the Same Time

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For those of us who deal with both depression and anxiety on a daily basis, it can be hard for us but even harder to describe it to other people. These two things often feed off of each other, or one contributes to the other, but they are also total opposites. I know that I personally feel conflicted, or even frozen with overwhelm on an almost daily basis. It is hard to take action or make decisions when your mind is at war with itself. On the one hand, depression makes me feel sad, unmotivated, uninspired, and hopeless. On the other, anxiety makes me feel scared, overwhelmed, stressed, and frantic or panicky. Both depression and anxiety are things that I have dealt with most of my life, at least since I was a teenager when I first noticed them. It wasn’t until much later that I realized what they meant. To learn more about my story of learning what depression and anxiety mean to me, you can read my previous post on the subject: What Depression and Anxiety Mean to Me.

If you deal with either, or both, please check out Depression Proof, a course full of information and steps that you can take to minimize or overcome your depression. Ironically, even though they can be complete opposites, some of the things we do to treat our depression can work for our anxiety as well. Part of that is because they feed off of each other, like I mentioned above, but it’s also because both are mental issues that we deal with.

We worry about not living up to our own dreams.

Oftentimes, we are so overwhelmed and stressed out that we worry if we’ll ever be able to go after our own dreams and achieve a life we have so desperately wanted for as long as we can remember. We are so frozen in place, working to feel some kind of hope, motivation, and calmness that will allow us to do something productive with our lives. I spent many years in this endless cycle, just keeping to myself and not trying, because everything else was just too hard.

We worry about looking lazy to other people, while a battle rages on in our minds.

We see it, that others think we are lazy, unmotivated, and choosing to live like we do. However, they can’t possibly see the battle that is raging in our minds. Our depression and anxiety is silent, invisible from the outside. No one can understand what we go through in our own minds. Even those of us who are inflicted with both depression and anxiety don’t fully understand what one another go through. I know that I personally feel so stressed sometimes that I’m frozen in place by my own feelings of overwhelm, unable to break through that barrier and actually do what I need to do.

We worry about not being able to control our own actions.

Sometimes we can’t control our own actions. You might be wondering how that is even possible because if anyone has control over our own actions, it’s us. Right? Well, when we deal with depression and anxiety, we don’t have full control over our own actions. An anxiety attack can happen at any moment, and no matter how small that attack is, we might flail around or look like a deer caught in the headlights because we simply can’t function. Bigger anxiety attacks reduce our control even more. Fortunately, I’ve only dealt with anxiety attacks a few times. However, sometimes even when I am just feeling super anxious, I do not feel as if I have full control over my actions. I may make involuntary movements or say things I wouldn’t have otherwise, or I may yell when I normally don’t like to yell.

We feel too much, yet nothing at all, at the same time.

With anxiety, we feel way too much at once. We get overwhelmed and overstimulated. On the flip side, with depression, we don’t feel enough or anything at all. We are sunk into a pit of despair and hopelessness that we don’t know how to get out of. I have tactics that help me get out of my depression, but if I don’t notice how fast I’m slipping or how far I’ve slipped into depression, it is that much harder to work my way out of it. I liken the experience to digging myself out of quicksand. Each step in the right direction could be taken away by one misstep, and send me deeper into the pit, causing me to start all over again. Same with anxiety, I have ways to deal with it, to help me feel less anxious in some situations. However, both depression and anxiety can appear out of nowhere or become a problem without me realizing that they have appeared until it’s too late.

We may view sleeping as the only escape we have, if we can even sleep.

Sleep is the greatest escape we have, but sometimes we suffer from insomnia when we are dealing with depression or anxiety, or both. Then even if we do fall asleep, we may suffer from bad dreams or nightmares. When I’m feeling anxious, I deal most with having trouble falling asleep, having bad dreams, and just simply being very restless. Sleep should be restful and invigorating, but instead it can be a means of escape or a torturous experience, depending on the person and their experiences.

This is only a glimpse into what it is like to deal with both depression and anxiety. The point is these issues hit us all differently. Those who don’t battle with both depression and anxiety may never understand what we go through. That’s okay, but we can spread awareness and hope that more people begin to understand what these issues do to us and screw with our life.

If someone you know suffers from depression and anxiety, please let them know that they are not alone and that there is always help and hope for them! If you are the one who suffers from depression and anxiety, I want you to know this too. There are so many of us that deal with one or the other, or both. Please remember that you are not alone and there are always options to find help and improve.

Depression Proof is one of the best resources that you can have to help you with your depression, and maybe even your anxiety, because it will walk you through what you need to know and do to help yourself. You will learn more about what depression is, in general as well as what it means for you. You will learn ways to deal with your depression and how to put them into practice. It is important to take a peek at the course because you don’t have to suffer in silence!

 

 

 

 

~Bonnie~

 

11 Inspirations to Improve Your Health

We all need inspiration to lose weight, or in this case improve our health, because it can be hard to stay motivated and inspired to do so. There are many reasons to lose weight and get healthier. Sometimes we need to be reminded on a daily basis of all those things that should help us stay inspired. Here are eleven of the biggest inspirations for you to keep in mind:

1. Physical Health

We can improve our physical health by eating more healthy foods, getting physical activity, and drinking more water. It helps increase our strength, endurance, and to fuel our bodies in the way they need to be fueled. What is important to remember is to do what you can with what you have and not take on too much at once. Every little healthy decision that you make adds up to big results over time. It doesn’t need to all be instantaneous. Have patience and do your best!

2. Emotional Health

Your emotional health is just as important as your physical health. As you learn to live healthier in your everyday life, some patterns may become apparent with your emotional health. For example, you may start to figure out what triggers you to feel depressed, anxious, or simply irritated or upset. When you figure those things out, you have a better chance of cutting things off before they get worse. That is one of the biggest benefits that I have found with improving my overall health, is to get to know myself well enough to improve how I function each day.

3. Mental Health

This is another one that depends on how well you are getting to know yourself. As you become more aware of your patterns, history, and other factors, the more you can gain control over your life. That doesn’t mean it will be easy by any means, but you can start to control what circumstances and situations you put yourself into a bit more and prepare for the ones you can’t escape from. It will help you gain more stability and contentment within your own life.

4. Play more and keep up with your kids and pets

Let’s face it, our kids and pets often have more energy than us. They are younger and just like to have fun! The healthier you are, the easier it is to keep up with the kids and pets in your life. It is so much fun to actually get involved with their play, actively engaging with them, much more fun than just watching them have all of the fun on their own!

5. Have more adventures

As your health improves, you will be able to go on more adventures. Sometimes it is difficult to get out of the house and that means that we are limited on our chance of adventures. However, there is a whole world out there just waiting to be explored and enjoyed. Some of the activities that you’ll be able to do more, or better, are to going shopping at the mall, hiking, taking walks around the neighborhood, going to theme parks, and whatever else strikes your fancy. Life is meant to be lived so improve your health and go out there to live it!

6. Gain more energy

Energy is something that a lot of us experience in short supply in our daily lives. The thing about living a healthier life, is that your energy will increase. Mine didn’t increase very fast but at some points, I felt much more energized than I had ever experienced, simply because I was eating healthier, getting more exercise, and drinking plenty of water. I’m confident that you will see some kind of increase in yours as well, as long as you consistently work on improving your health.

7. Live a fuller life with a better future

The better you feel and the healthier you are, the more you will be able to accomplish in your life. I also found that the longer I worked on improving my health and actually started accomplishing what I set out to do, the more I felt I was capable of accomplishing in other areas of my life. It gave me the confidence and the determination to go after many more of my dreams. To say the least, it was invigorating! Not only will you feel like going after more things to create a better life and future for yourself, but you will also have more energy and improved health to do so.

8. Feel better overall

You will feel better all around as you improve your health. This touches on many of the above inspirations, but this one is generalized for a reason. You will feel better overall which will boost you on so many different levels. It will help you do more and be more in your life.

9. Travel easier and more comfortably

When you lose weight and are healthier overall, traveling becomes a bit easier and more comfortable. You can fit in the bus, train, or plane seats better which means you have more room. Those seats are still small, but it does make it a bit more comfortable. Not only that, but you will have more energy to deal with the exhausting effects of traveling and be able to do more exploring on your vacations.

10. Clothes shopping can be a lot of fun

As you lose weight, you will need new clothes. Whether you go the route of thrift stores, clearance racks, or full sale, you can have a lot of fun shopping for new clothes in your new sizes. Then being able to actually wear those clothes instead of the same old ones all the time, it is such a rush! It can even be an experience in and of itself as you discover colorful and amazing clothes that you can wear that you may not have been able to wear before!

11. Boosted confidence, self-esteem, and much more

Losing weight and improving our health does us wonders in other aspects as well. The biggest way this happens is helping us feel better about ourselves all around. We start to see the good within us as we work on improving our overall health, and what we are capable of. We are all strong and capable, and we can see that even more pronounced as we work on improving our health!

Let me know what inspires you the most to improve your health in the comments, I would love to hear them!

 

~Bonnie~