Tag: self-love

10 Acts of Self-Love to Set You Up for Success

If you haven’t noticed already, I am very passionate about self-love. It has so much to do with our all around health, physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual. Why…? Because how we show ourselves love has a huge impact on how we take care of our bodies and minds, how we deal with our emotions, and how worthy we feel to receive help and guidance from God.

I want you to take a moment and ask yourself how you treat yourself and your body on a daily basis.

Now ask yourself if you can improve on the way you treat yourself and your body.

 

Here’s a not so big secret… everyone can stand to improve on how they treat themselves and their bodies. None of us are perfect and we all have certain struggles. So, I wanted to compile a short list of self-love acts that can set you up for success in your healthy living journey:

1. Read your favorite book, or even one you have been putting off for a while.

I am a bookworm, but even as a bookworm, I often don’t have the time or patience to read. So, when I need some chill time, I try to pick up a book and read… even if it’s only a few pages. Reading is often relaxing and is also very beneficial to your mental wellbeing.

2. Get up and dance!

Dancing is so freeing and fun, so this one is a big act of self-love that all of us should take part in more often! Put on your favorite music, or any music that makes you feel like dancing, and dance! Bonus points for singing along with the song while you dance.

3. Color in an adult coloring book, or even a kids’ coloring book.

Coloring is relaxing, and meditative. If you don’t have a coloring book in the house, go pick one or two up at the store, along with your favorite coloring tools. I personally like to use skinny markers for coloring and I really enjoy the adult coloring books with plants, flowers, and words. Once you get started, you will likely find that you get so deep into the coloring that you forget all else!

4. Go to the park!

Parks and playgrounds can really be a good, positive place to be, especially when the weather is nice. Take advantage of the sunshine, take a walk at the park, admire the trees and animals, and just recharge. Sometimes even playing on the playground like you are a kid again can be really fun and rejuvenating!

5. Take a break, get in a nap when you need it.

Always take a break when you need a break. Go outside or get away from whatever situation is stressing or overwhelming you, and take a breather. If you are tired and need a quick nap to get through the rest of your day, do it if you can! I’m a huge fan of naps myself, and they really help me feel better so that I can accomplish more.

6. Play with your pets.

Playing or cuddling with your pets is another great way to show yourself love. They give you unconditional love, some giggles, and can be a distraction from stressful situations. Plus, they need that interaction as much as you do!

7. Cook yourself your favorite meal.

Even if your favorite meal isn’t necessarily a healthy one, cooking yourself your favorite meal once in a while can be a great boost and is exciting too. Treating yourself occasionally is not a bad thing and you should be able to enjoy your favorite foods on special occasions. What better special occasion than pampering yourself?

8. Write in a journal.

Writing in your journal is therapeutic, and it helps you work through anything that is bothering you. I know I don’t write in mine quite as often as I would like, but when I do, it is super helpful!

9. Watch funny videos or a funny show.

When you watch funny videos online or a sitcom, you may just find yourself laughing uncontrollably… and laughing is good for the soul! I have experienced this on multiple occasions, where I laugh my head off and then I feel better afterwards because it helps me release those negative feelings.

10. Binge watch Netflix!

Yeah, sitting around for hours on end, watching shows on Netflix isn’t necessarily healthy. However, one day, once in a while, can really be awesome and fun. Make up your favorite healthy snacks to chomp on while you watch your favorite shows or movies, and spend the time recharging, either on your own or with loved ones.

Self-love is so important to practice on a daily basis, to show your body and mind that you find them important and will continue to take care of them. I am starting a FREE program on Facebook on May 6th, called the 7-Day Self-Love for Summer in my group Inspire Your Best Life! Be sure to join the group before Sunday, I would love to have you!

How do you show yourself love each day? Is it something you make time for every day, or just when you feel you need it?

 

~Bonnie~

15 Simple Ways to Set Aside Time for Yourself

This time of year is rife with stress as school ends for you or your kiddos and summer craziness is about to start, and we all need to take the time to treat ourselves right. It helps us be our best the rest of the time, as well as to enjoy summer and hopefully some nice vacations down the road!

Simple Ways to Set Aside Time for Yourself

  1. Whenever possible, take your time in the shower. Hot showers are especially relaxing and soothing. It may be one of life’s necessities but the shower itself can give you time to think through things that are bothering you, hopefully without interruption.
  2. Take a walk. If you can, take a walk by yourself to just think and revel in the beauty around you. If you take a walk with a friend, talking can be therapeutic too. Sometimes we need or want to take the children in our lives on a walk too. It’s still a good way to set aside time for yourself. Take advantage of the quiet moments while also striking a balance with teaching them. I find it relaxing to just point out things and talk to my nephews while walking. Sometimes it’s not relaxing when they ask the same question five times in a row but it’s still usually fun.
  3. Workout. Just in general, spend time getting your workout. Put yourself first for the time being and get that workout in. You can release frustrations, uncertainties, and even celebrate life’s victories. Plus you get the added benefit of knowing you’re doing something wonderful for your body which gives you some peace of mind.
  4. Write in a journal or notebook. Take the time to write out how you feel, discuss your day, figure things out, or even make plans. I find writing out my day and discussing how I feel is so beneficial!
  5. Cuddle with your favorite person/pet. The time spent cuddling your children or other loved ones, or simply cuddling with or petting your dog or cat can be good for your mental wellbeing.
  6. Sit and breathe. Quiet your mind, maybe even close your eyes. If you believe in God, talk to Him. Either way, take time to reflect on your day and all of your blessings, all of the positives in your life. It truly sets the tone for the rest of the day. I’ve been trying to do this more often myself and know I feel better about life just relying on God and reflecting on any good things in my life.
  7. Do something for someone else. You may ask, how is doing something for someone else setting aside time for me? I’ll tell you… doing something for someone else makes them feel good, which in turn makes you feel good to help them. I love helping others and do so not to get something in return, but it still makes me feel good to do so!
  8. Go shopping for something fun! This is hard for some of us, as money is tight or we may face temptation to spend to much… but if you can, a little retail therapy can go a long way. Even stopping in the Dollar Tree or somewhere else that has low price items and browsing the aisles to pick out a few things can boost your sense of wellbeing.
  9. Read (books, magazines, articles, etc.). Read something that you enjoy! Getting lost in a story or something pleasant can be such a nice way to put yourself first because it’s FUN!
  10. Self-care: Hair, skin, nails, etc. Spend some time on self-care. It makes you feel refreshed and ready to take on the world when you have certain self-care things in order! Take a manicure or a pedicure (or both), having nice nails is so rewarding!
  11. Haircut/coloring. Going to get your hair cut or get a color can be a mostly relaxing experience. My last haircut, I got a quiet beautician and I just let myself go, zoning out and just being. It was so enjoyable. I never experienced something like that. You could also find joy in having a conversation with the beautician as well! Either way is nice!
  12. Organizing or cleaning. Such a weird, but therapeutic thing to do once you get into it. Organizing is fun because you’re getting things in order, cleaning is fun because after you’re done, something is clean! Sure it’s a pain to do sometimes but the results are refreshing!
  13. Writing out cards or notes/letters to loved ones. Writing out your thoughts and making loved ones feel cherished and valued is time well spent! You will feel better when it’s done because a lot of us go through our days without much opportunity to say how we feel some of the time. So setting aside some time to do that will lighten your heart!
  14. Art. If you like to draw or paint, that is another way to set aside time for yourself. Lose yourself in your work and make something beautiful.
  15. Sit down to enjoy a sweet treat you really want. Life is too short not to enjoy something you really want once in a while. Treat yourself. Just make sure you enjoy it so it’s worth it!

These are some of my favorite ways to set aside time for myself. Those things really give me a sense of peace, or accomplishment, or both. Sometimes it’s hard to get started on the organizing and cleaning one, but once I do it is such a rewarding experience. I also am not a big on drawing or painting anymore but from time to time it is fun!

I hope you all liked my list. What are your favorite ways to set aside time for yourself? It could be simple like most of these or it could be something more elaborate. I’d love to hear what you do! We could all use ways to improve our sense of wellbeing!

 

~Bonnie~

10 Ways to De-Stress When Life Gets Crazy

What I feel is most important is loving ourselves and taking care of ourselves when life gets crazy. I’m not sure about you, but this time of year is proving to be a little bit crazy and busy, this month especially is full of events and deadlines!

One of our biggest downfalls as human beings is stressing out. We’re constantly bombarded by anything and everything, we have mountains and mountains of work not to mention our home life to juggle, or we simply feel overwhelmed about life in general.

Here are some things you can do pretty much anywhere or anytime to de-stress when life is causing you to feel overwhelmed for whatever reason:

  1. Write. Journal, blog, or jot a few notes down on a piece of paper to work through what you’re feeling. It’s quick and it helps a ton. Not only are you organizing your thoughts, but writing and rereading what you wrote can help you discover new things or come to realizations you wouldn’t have otherwise.
  2. Read. Grab your favorite book or any good book and start reading it. It could be a novel, a self-help book, a real life story, anything that you find pleasing. Reading is relaxing because it gets you out of your own mind and into another world. While you’re taking a mental vacation between the pages, your mind can process other thoughts and feelings, which in turn helps you work through your feelings and calm down.
  3. Listen to music. This one can be a given to a lot of us, but even though I love music, sometimes I can forget that it’s such a stress reliever. Pump up your favorite tunes, turn on your favorite radio station, or watch music videos. Sing along and even dance along, let those tunes carry you away!
  4. Take a walk or workout. Taking a walk in the fresh air or getting a workout in can allow you to work through your thoughts and feelings as well. You can take out your frustration or disappointment and work super hard in your workout. Going for a walk is great too as it’s another way to get outside of your head while still allowing your mind to work through things.
  5. Call a friend. Do you have a buddy you like to talk to when you need to just get it all out? Call, email, or message them. A true friend will always be there for you, as a listening ear or to give you advice if you want it (or sometimes when you don’t want it). Talking through things allows you to hear things from another perspective, out loud as well as through feedback from your friend.
  6. Color. Coloring isn’t just for kids anymore. Grab or print a coloring page and something to color with and start coloring. It is really therapeutic. It allows you to zone out and do something with both your mind and hands that is constructive. Your pictures do not even have to be pretty for this to work. If you think this is something for you, I would also encourage you to go to the store and pick out a kids or adult coloring book and coloring utensils that make you excited to color: colored pencils, markers, crayons, colored pens, anything works!
  7. Housework/organize. Work on cleaning, organizing, or decluttering your house, yard, or car. Making everything clean and fresh is remarkably refreshing to your mind as well!
  8. Pamper yourself. Go see a movie on your own or with a friend/loved one, get your hair cut or colored, get your nails done, go to the library to spend some quiet time, visit a museum, spend some time in nature, or just do anything that makes you feel pampered and relaxed. It doesn’t have to cost an arm and a leg. Just give it some thought and pick something that works for you.
  9. Play. Play with your kids or pets, or those of friends/family members. It will help release the inner kid in you and help you feel more carefree and alive! Trust me, it is fun! Be silly and throw yourself into it!
  10. Hot shower/bath. Water therapy. Take a nice relaxing bath if you can, or a hot shower. If you have access to a pool or hot tub, those can be amazingly relaxing as well. Whatever floats your boat!

My personal favorites are walking, writing, and reading. If I’m really antsy or anxious, putting myself to work picking up the house or organizing things helps me too. It gives me something to do physically that betters my world in some way! I also love to pamper myself whenever I get the chance to.

What is your favorite way to de-stress when you feel overwhelmed?

 

~Bonnie~

How to Strive for Everyday Self-Awareness

I am pleased to announce that Prince Akwarandu from Ewritepreneur is sharing his expertise on personal development, specifically how to strive for everyday self-awareness.

Can you imagine a photographer shooting pictures without taking the time to focus? What deer hunter would stand on top of a hill and shoot randomly at the valley without taking aim at something? Our personal lifestyle resonates in same direction. If we don’t exercise the urge to succeed and move far from poverty we may not be successful.

While I was writing my first ever published book I had an encounter with ‘laziness syndrome’ which I almost fell off the chain for. At a point I stopped meeting up my writing goals and breaking the nuts I had set out myself to allow me write well and fast. The burden got heavy on me and then I recognized I will pose to my readers as an irresponsible writer if I refuse to deliver and at the right time.

Why I tell the story above? I will like to push you toward the real reason why you should be aware anytime, any day not minding the circumstance involved to stand for yourself and your dear future. Your future should be very dear to you because whatever you can’t deal with now will come after your future and it will defeat your ignorance and refusal to act when due. By then you will be doomed of failure running up, down, right and left with no definite solute. If you take the right steps, the urge to be self-aware will live presently in your moment of existence.

Allow me hold you by the hand and let you into the world of self-awareness.

In the world of self-awareness we have no room for excuse. So, get ready for none.

Do You Need To Develop Self Awareness?

How well do you know yourself? How deep is your understanding about your emotions?

It is no lie that as you develop self-awareness you may be able to make certain changes in your mind. It comes naturally to us as humans so I won’t blame you for any mess. One thing is sure here – If you can be able to change the interpretations of different issues to a positive one in your mindset you can influence your emotion. Answering to this great call will help you to get what you want and need to step up your game. Success is more than the money you invest in different businesses expecting double or triple returns as profits.

Here is the reason: If your emotions cannot capture money your hands won’t touch it.

Below I share with us the four basic factors responsible for our everyday drive toward being self-aware.

1. Breaking Limitation Pattern

No matter the challenges you are facing now, self-awareness remains the first step in creating a ‘debut single’ of your life. Limiting patterns has been the organic factor denying young people of their beautiful destinies. The word Limitation is a critical word which from study I could say was conjured up from the two great perspectives rising from ‘limit’ down to ‘action’. Self-awareness can be an expression of one’s feeling concerning a particular matter in a particular way to achieve an aim or series of it. For your self-awareness to last and allow you achieve your purpose in life, you must be cognizance of self-limiting patterns. This kind of pattern is one which stands to deter your day-to- day decisions about the events that take place in your life. Don’t allow it instead stay steady and strong.

2. Shopping Lives’ Happiness

Self-awareness is a guide to everyone’s happiness in life. This allows you be in control of how the mind affects your happiness. The gifting of self-awareness can’t be over emphasized because of its ability to allow you perceive other people, to know people’s thoughts about you – your attitudes and how they perceive you. This carefully explains how we may respond to people’s actions as we break the limiting patterns that try to confide us. If you forfeit the moment of your emotions and behavior you may have a big problem in positioning yourself for maximum success. With the practice to shop lives’ happiness we can learn to engage and see new opportunities to expand our capacities.

3. Practicing Focus While Living

When we talk about focus, it isn’t learnt only when you read a book and feel like a super hero. No, it is far from that. When you read a book, you focus mostly on the ideas embedded in that very book. The development of self-awareness is gotten through practices in directing your actions and beliefs to how it affects your personal lifestyle. Think of learning as a situation where you are to train your voice as a singer. When learning to sing you pay attention to tones and pitches to know when you should stretch your voice a little bit higher and lower as the case may be. You think of how to move your tongues and lips to meet the right bit in the right time frame. Singing isn’t leaned from books and self-awareness isn’t either. A singer needs awareness on their tongue movements and good body relaxation to meet up the needed standard.

4. Rule Over Your Emotions

Emotion takes a larger share to what contributes to our awareness. Without including the word ‘emotion’ explaining self-awareness will remain incomplete. Emotions are the very first vital ingredient that triggers and builds up our thoughts. Our reaction toward a particular action is displayed depending on the level of emotions we exist in at that particular time. If you can control the tea spoon and give it option of when to enter your mouth or no, you can rule over your emotions. This is to say, making changes in your life is much easier to do when you catch them early. If you’ve persevered to read up till here, probably you have understood the power of self-image and how we can make good decisions.

Wrapping it up

The key to greater confidence and assertiveness in your life is self-awareness. You can stop reacting to events and emotions and learn to choose your response to any situation. You can stop reacting to events and emotions and learn to choose your response to any situation. For this reason, spend some time recognizing areas you need to develop and intentionally making an effort to develop or strengthen that aspect of yourself.

Author Bio: Prince Akwarandu is a Content Creator and Brand Story Teller at Ewritepreneur. He help purpose driven writers grow their writing talent without compromising their price, purpose and promise. He believes in personal development, Nation Building, regional collaboration and global participation.

You can connect to him on: Twitter | LinkedIn | Google+

 

Interview with Self Love Beauty Blogger Lisa Thompson

I would love to announce that I have had the pleasure to become acquainted with the wonderful lady who blogs at Self Love Beauty, Lisa Thompson! She is a runner who loves to help others see the true beauty within themselves, and I firmly believe that you should hop on over and check out her posts there on her website!

You can find Lisa on social media here: Facebook | Twitter | InstagramPinterest

What is your website about?

Self Love Beauty mission is to ensure women have self-love through feeling confident in their own beauty and feeling empowered one story at a time knowing they are not alone on their journey to reach their full potential.

Why do you feel self-love is so important?

Self-love is so important because until you love yourself you cannot be happy with other pieces of your life. It is amazing the women I know with self-love and how they give more, love more and give themselves more respect. It is extremely important. I think since I have given myself more love, I am a stronger person.

What do you think are the best ways to show self-love?

Great question! I truly think it is taking care of yourself, eating properly, being surrounded with positive people, saying no to things you don’t want to do, giving yourself respect, being kind, confident and following your dreams. You get to choice each day how to feel so why not choose love for yourself!

How can we make the world a better place simply by treating ourselves and others better?

Just think about how when someone is kind to you how it changes your day and then use that act of kindness to do the same for someone else. It is truly amazing how if you do simple things for people how it can change their day and then they turn around and do it for someone else too.

What are your biggest accomplishments as far as self-love or health go? 

My biggest accomplish is learning what works for my body. Everyone is different and therefore you have to choose what healthy means to you, what foods you want to eat and what exercises you want to do. I have finally found what exercise and food works for my body. There are multiple ads out there telling you what to try but our bodies are all different so it is important you do what you want for yourself. I have made sure to not deprive myself from going out but I also learned moderation. Not only is it important with food and exercise but truly who you surround yourself with, what positive you have in your life and being sure to always be laughing.

How important do you think living a healthy life is?

Healthy living is so important. It fuels your energy, mind and body. Health living can be handled in many ways but it is self care and self love. I am so much happier with myself since I took the turn to finally embrace my body, embrace who I am and take care of myself.

Do you have any advice to other women based on what you’ve learned or done?

It would be to find what works for yourself regarding health and all other aspects of your life it would be to know your worth. It is extremely important that you know how beautiful you are. Self love, self care and self respect are three essentials.

Don’t forget to check out Lisa’s social media pages and follow her if you like what she posts! Facebook | Twitter | InstagramPinterest

 

~Bonnie~